Mistakes to avoid during a divorce mediation
Mediation is often an excellent way to resolve disputes, including divorce. While court cases are public and leave the decision in the hands of a judge, mediation allows you have more say in the outcome and keep affairs private.
However, a misstep could cause painful consequences, so keep in mind what not to do during the process.
Ignoring the other side’s position and interests
You may have a clear idea of what you want out of the negotiation, but stubbornness can lead to a contentious and protracted battle. You might even end up back in a costly court case — the very outcome you likely wanted to avoid.
Acknowledging and expressing appreciation for compromises that the other side of the table offers can build goodwill and earn you more concessions. Be a good listener and refrain from trying to win petty issues out of spite.
Forgetting vital materials
Without the necessary documents, you can harm your case. Come prepared by bringing business and prenuptial contracts if specific details are up for dispute.
Getting overly emotional
You will not be able to remove your emotions entirely from the process, but try to restrain yourself. Practice techniques to stay calm. Swearing at the other party or raising your voice can lead to a rapid breakdown in negotiations. When you need to share your feelings, do so constructively with the goal of resolution.
Refusing to participate
You may want to avoid the talks out of anger or frustration, but such a tactic can be dangerous. If the court mandates mediation, avoiding discussions can put you in violation of a court order.
Mediation can be an effective way to resolve issues. Preparing to conduct yourself in a mature and professional manner can provide a better outcome.